I love humanity. Love of all people seems too rare. I feel that goodness has not been universally appreciated for what it is. We have been beseeched many times to care about each other. Policies and behavior are perfected by caring about the wellbeing and happiness of every living person. Extending this to love is a measure too far for many.
I fault the common understanding of Human Nature. Resentment, fear, envy, jealousy, anger, revenge, blame, hate, hostility, frustration, dismissiveness, arrogance, and wishing for power over the choices of others are widely regarded as natural to all people. Children play competitive games with toys imitating machine guns. They play King on the Mountain and Simon Says, cultivating a joy of power. Writers of cartoons condition children to cheer when a cartoon character is evaporated by a bomb. As of now, armies of countries have yet to engage an aggressor with non-lethal weapons. Competition is promoted as inherently more fun than constructive cooperation.
This could be otherwise. As some agree, infants can learn a different path, but they imitate their parents. Add to that the wishes of those who have been rewarded for manipulating the culture toward evil ends and it seems that it will be centuries before people regard each other as cherished siblings.
Those who do wrong are not to be hated, lest we become haters who produce nothing good. We might wonder how those who do wrong come to be so misled. How indeed. To understand how, is to understand their misfortune. There but for the grace of God, go I.
Each of the feelings and supposedly natural reactions listed above can be purged by the individual. They are not part of goodness. They are the seeds of war. They hold us back. They do us harm. They form the substance of barbarism. Become free.
The Higher Self
The higher self is recognized by spiritualists and virtually all religions. The consciousness of a person's higher self is characterized by emotional associations and implications within every cognitive operation and episode of reasoning. This can be understood as a coherent blending of feelings and thought. In the higher self, feeling and thought are the same. This emotionally sensitive thought is not rare. Many thoughts are inextricably melded with named feelings, even if those feelings are not consistent with love. The higher self can observe, reason, conclude, wish, pray, speculate, and in general, perform any type of function of mind while always feeling the meaning. Thinking may happen without words. A person's higher self is never the source of feelings or wishes inconsistent with love.
This is not to say that the people who react to disappointment, pain, or alarm by feeling frustration, fear, or anger are not well intentioned. They are not willful perpetrators. They are unwitting victims of their enculturation - victims of the influence of a culture that is both constructive and destructive. With the help of your higher self, destructive reactions can be purged. They do not serve you. You need not identify with them. You are not only human.
Tranquility and Peace
You know how people get to be the way they are. The paths to displaced revenge and selfishness are famous. When you are attacked, verbally or otherwise, your understanding of people and your tranquility will do much to protect you, where fear or anger would place you in greater peril; but peace is often opposed, not just by attacks and rudeness, but by memories of unfortunate events.
Recurring memories or dreams of misfortune or injustice or of regret for your own past actions need to be purged from the events and feelings that make up your life. Thoroughly examining and reliving these events and all of their surrounding circumstances, and also grieving your preoccupation with them, must eventually allow you to forgive. Forgiveness of yourself and the others involved will lead to joyful peace. The same can be done to purge destructive feeling. The feeling that are inconsistent with love do you no good. They are painful and useless. You need to grieve your tendency to feel them, whatever the circumstances.
You can learn to become tranquil in situations that formerly prompted you to feel resentment, anger, or fear. Tranquility can be the reaction that serves as the antidote and substitute for destructive feelings.
There are times for various kinds of sorrow and grief. This is needed. Such feelings need not prompt any of the destructive feelings mentioned earlier, but if sadness is chronic and generalized, that type of sadness needs to be purged.
Forgiveness of yourself and others in the process that thoroughly examines and recounts troublesome memories will cause these sad thoughts and feelings to cease and you will no longer be bothered by past events. You can also rid yourself of any tendency to experience harmful feelings, purging them from your personality. You must be persistent to accomplish this. For myself, even before I was rid of bothersome memories, I let go of hate and anger. I had gone through so much of those feelings that it was apparent that they needed to go. A great effort was required.
Who Has A Higher Self?
Everybody has a higher self. Its existence in you does not depend on your religious and spiritual beliefs, although the degree of your belief in goodness affects everything that you do and think and feel, whether you are in your higher self or not.
Anybody can purge recurring recollections of disturbing past events - dismissing them from your life. You can also purge any tendency to feel destructive feelings. It takes the same work regardless of your spiritual experience, or the lack of it. In the event that you are asking yourself "Why bother" I would point out that living without resentment is its own reward, as is facing misfortune or threats with tranquility. Tranquility does not attenuate the likelihood of rational solutions, but fear does exactly that. If you reflect on all you know about how people get to be the way they are, hatred becomes increasingly inappropriate, even outside of your higher self. Anger solves nothing. Teaching envy by example spoils the culture. It does not enrich it. If you purge destructive feelings, you will soon care about the wellbeing and happiness of everybody.
Goodness and love are built into our universe and built into our reality in such a way that even the misled who engage in evil acts inexplicably regard their successes as good. The only path to constructiveness, beauty, and happiness is the path of goodness and love. People did not create the moral compass. They discovered it. The root cause of suffering is evil while the root cause of goodness is love. Such is our universe.
Purging Disturbing Memories
Purging the involuntary recall of disturbing memories is not successfully done by trying to suppress them or avoid them. Their issues, accusations, grief, or other hurtful reactions must be addressed for what they are as they happened. Forgiveness of yourself and others involved must be accomplished, if blame is an issue. Concentration on the memories, one at a time, will reveal the issues. Grief must be faced and resolved rather than burying it. Everything about the disturbing memories must be clearly realized. If this work is done, the past will loose its hold on you.
It is the unintended recurrence of the disturbing memories that is stopped by this work. If you are asked to recall some horrible event, you can do it, and probably with great accuracy; but when your work is done, such a memory never occurs unless you try to remember it. There is no unconscious activity of such memories to invade dreams. The events are known, and they are not disturbing anymore. It is the mental activity of these thoughts that is purged. Fear, embarrassment, blame, guilt, resentment, or whatever makes them disturbing have been addressed and they are gone.
You are truly free of being bothered by the past. Nothing is suppressed. No memory is reinvented. If you ever blamed yourself, you have forgiven yourself. In many cases you may never have blamed yourself. These events, most importantly, no longer contribute to your personality, attitudes, beliefs, etc. They are no longer who you are.
Purging Destructive Feelings
Purging destructive feelings is a matter of questioning their utility and questioning their presumed advantages. These feelings are habitual. They are conditioned by upbringing - mainly through the imitation of adults. They are everywhere characterized as normal and natural.
Envy is one of the least controversial. Some people learn not to be envious. It can be related to loving humanity and wishing the best for everybody, but it can also be a matter of finding that success in positive goals is desirable in all cases. Envy is a negative feature of one's character. It doesn't take much reflection to dismiss it.
Resentment, dislike, and hatred are greatly reduced simply by reflecting on the way you know people get to be the way they are. A detailed knowledge on that subject tends to make these feeling increasingly inappropriate.
Revenge, blame, anger, the habit of arrogance, and wishing for power over the choices that belong to others can be reduced and eventually eliminated by understanding their incompatibility with goodness.
Work In Progress
There is a common reluctance to believe that one can purge destructive feelings because we all grew up with them and most consider them natural; but consider what answers you get when you consult your higher self. Your higher self does not participate in feelings that are not consistent with love.
Resentment, anger, envy, and all of the rest of them, are habits of a 3D consciousness. They are never products of your higher self, and it would be wrong to suggest that they are part of the 5D consciousness.
I will continue to try to find the words to persuade those who are reluctant, but your help in this is invaluable.