"Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on our own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts
upon." - Denis Waitley
Our environment, the world in which we live and work, is a mirror of our attitudes and expectations. - Earl Nightingale
How often do we find ourselves tense, or down trodden wondering how things in our lives will turn out? I catch myself in these negative states and ask
what’s up with this? Unwittingly, I realize I am harboring negative expectations. It’s like my system is preparing for an onslaught that is looming in the
dark. I’ve come to recognize that the times I’ve been hurt or failed or assaulted in some way have long shadows that reach into the present moment.
Becoming aware that I am feeding negative experiences with current expectations has been a big help. A big help because this awareness gives me the
opportunity to re-think my expectations to what I want not what I fear. I believe our expectations are like a magnet that can pull us into meeting those
expectations. Our expectations color how we look at and react to situations around us. Our expectations shape how we respond and interact with the people
in our world. Our expectations also drive what boundaries we set with people including what we will tolerate or not tolerate from them and how much we
will ask for what we want and need from them.
Looking at what we expect in our lives is important. What it reveals and the course corrections we can make for a better life can make all the difference. It
is the significant difference of living a life that has more shadows than substance versus living a life of deep satisfaction and enjoyment. Well worth the
work of changing our expectations that guide our perceptions and actions.
-Mary Seyuin, M.A. LLP